The greatest secret of victory in marital challenges is right foundation.
When the foundation is wrong the future is bleak.
That’s why preparation is extremely important.
When there is no preparation, there is no prospect.
As a single what foundation are you laying?
“so Jonathan became mighty because he prepared his way”
A successful marriage is continuous preparation.
Let’s go to the beginning of Marriage.
Genesis 2: 20 – 25
God gave Adam joint authority with Eve over all creations. After the fall he put a difference. Genesis 3:16
If the man does not rule well, the house will not go well.
When the man is tyrannical, the wife become independent and the child become rebellious. In ruling, you must love.
Nowhere in the Bible is the woman command to love. (Husband loves your wife).
A woman is like a pump that must be primed. She automatically multiplies what you give. It is innate in feminine structure.
Woman needs feeling of being loved more than men.
The great secret of victory in marriage is UNITY.
Nothing, no relative should be allowed to cause division. You must cut the apron or you’ll be in trouble!
300 couples were interviewed 90% of successful couples used WE.
ENEMIES OF UNITY
1. Escalation. I Peter 3:9
Attempting to revenge, using words to extend trivial issues instead of forgetting.
2. Invalidation
When you put down the thoughts / ideas / feelings of the other:
I don’t think so, You’re wrong
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3. Negative Interpretation
When one believe the motive of the other is negative.
When wife believes the husband does not like her parents.
Don’t attempt to judge thoughts – I Corinthians 4:5
4. Avoidance and Withdrawal
When one becomes unwilling to stay in discussion.
Falling in love is exciting, but staying in love is work.
If you are not married – look well before you leap
If you are married be determine to work things out
If you want to marry, you need a father / spiritual father
Genesis 24:23, so you won’t be abused physically and spiritually
Don’t marry at dancing halls.
Judges 20: 1 – 5, 21 – 23
Last line
II Chronicles 22: 8 -10. Marriage is like a throne, get it and keep it.